Does Thoreau’s famous quote, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation, and go to the grave with the song still in them” apply to you?
One meets certain individuals in life, who practically seethe with enthusiasm, utterly engaged in the immediate. They are energizing, uplifting, and truly inspiring.
I would concur though, with Thoreau, in the observation that the majority are not so engaged. We tend instead to live lives of reaction and discontent. At times we notice this and, look around to find the source, for our unhappiness. Sadly, we then blame the people who happen to have the misfortune of being there. This can lead us to become resentful and bitter.
If you dear reader live that life of quiet desperation. DON’T!! Stop telling yourself things that make you feel trapped!! As long as we focus our attention on the negative circumstances of our lives, we are choosing to remain in cell with an open door. GET OUT!
Don’t get me wrong. Bad things happen to people every day. Terrible things, absolutely beyond their control. Life is never fair, and if you were promised that it would be, or can be, you were lied to. That said, most of us never achieve, that which we would recognize as success, for the simple reason that, we never stop and figure out what that would be. Obviously in any situation with more than two potential outcomes, the odds of having the desirable outcome are bad, but in this case, they are so astronomically unlikely, it would be absurd to gamble on it. Don’t gamble! Stop, and create a mental ideal, of what you want your life to look like. Write it down or draw a picture if you need to. Then figure out something that you can do to go toward that ideal. Take one action, large or small, toward that ideal. Tomorrow, take another action toward that ideal, and notice how you no longer feel stuck. Keep walkin!
When you figure out what you think you want, and set out to get that, it is most likely, you will either, not achieve what you wanted, or find it not to be what you wanted, after all. You might instead achieve what is really good for you. The point is autonomous engagement instead of passive reaction.
Consider yourself from outside for a moment. As though looking at a child. Your job is to take care of that person. Treat yourself as a responsibility. Not selfishly. You have responsibilities to the others in your life as well. Do this job well. It is important. Your life, should be something you do, rather than something that happens to you.